People Come. People Go. Thats how life is.

Have you ever felt like you’ve exhausted all ur advises you can provide, and all other means and ways you could help a fren? Well, I have.

What about, trying to help and be supportive, yet misunderstood for the things you have done, and then blamed for things you haven’t done and have no clue about? I experienced that as well.

Lastly, do everything you can, just to be there for a fren as long as its within your ability,  gladly give unconditionally, yet not be appreciated for your efforts, and not trust upon?  Been there, done that!

These were the exact things I’d had to experience some time back. And I can tell you, it sure doesn’t make anyone feel good at all, especially when you are already at your wits end and still being looked upon for an “Unappreciated Friendship Support”. You know that at any point in time, you are up to the brim of  exploding into pieces wishing that you could just fade away into the unknown, and make yourself disappear, nvr to be called upon for help that is unrealistic, and you just cannot give. That was me, then.

I was so caught up in helping, listening, supporting – fulfilling my so-called Duties as a “Best Friend”, I simply couldn’t differentiate what is and what’s not anymore. I can’t sort out, what’s urgent to something minor and blown out of proportion, without having to go through with the guilt treatment each and every single time. It was horrible.

I was not sure where my priorities were. I was lost at dealing with it appropriately. It felt like I was being pushed to the wall. And everytime I get a buzz, I’d dread picking up the call, because it meant that I was about to be summoned for support that I feel is no longer worth giving.

I felt so tired all the time – listening. I’d try giving impartial advises and opinions, but not only will they be shot down and discredited, my intentions would be misinterpreted and misunderstood.

I contstantly ask myself, why I put myself through so much hassle and emotional stress.The incidents or events would recurr over a number of times, and each time nothing is solved, thus the vicious cycle, and I’d be looped into the  whole emotional ordeal. And I HATE IT! Its so depressive.

Don’t they have any self awareness? Do they look back at events, and blame every single person involved, in something that went wrong? Will they ever try asking themselves if they were the caused of the problem? Will they ever look back and feel remorse over a small detail that could have mattered? I see them blaming everyone but themselves? Nvr once, stopped to ponder over how they have behaved and whether they should change. Its always, “they must change!”

If you’ve got relationship woes occurring every once a month or once every fortnight, you’ve got something to think about.

Are you always going to your frens, and relying on them for emotional suppport, and saying things that you dun mean at all? When will you stop?

Will you ever be happy and contented with what you’ve got, rather than always comparing that patch of grass to another that you dun own?

Is it You? Or is it your other half? Why are the both of you still together if things haven’t work out many times over?

I finally woke up, and braven up to wash my hands off trying to fit the expectations and criterias of being a “Best Friend”.  Its tiring enough, but when your efforts are not appreciated but yet taken advantage of, its time to walk away. Its the only thing I could do. I’ve fallen hard many times over, and I’ve been hurt time and time again, each time a cut deeper. I blamed myself for not being able to withstand the hurdle, but I’ve wisen up to know that its beyond my ability when others refuse to wisen up themselves.

People change, and they grow up, their perceptions changes as well. I guess we do grow out of somethings. And there comes a point in time where we’ll know what we want, and how we should be treated. So in with the good meaning those whom are worth it and are important to your life, and off with the bad.